Again, thank you. I really appreciate your comments. For the most part, I try to keep things "light" in this venue, staying away from the things that really pull on my heart. Still, I find comfort in the fact that the pages of this blog can actually talk back through your comments when I feel the need to share. I find it comforting to know you're out there!
Thank you, Psychfun, for mentioning that not everyone goes to college, and of those who don't, many do just fine. I do believe one must want to go to college to do well, and if being there only to satisfy a parent's wishes, they probably are not going to do as well. At best, it would be a major struggle to survive the classes.
My guy mentioned to me the other night while I was in the middle of my own chaos, my son's girlfriend is her parents' responsibility and there's nothing more I can do there. It was a moment of, "Ohhh, you're right..." when I heard that. So, I am seeing things a little different today. I am a bit more settled within.
In the end, in all of life's ups and downs, things do seem to work out. And, when mama's happy, everyone's happy.
The little tree that could.
1 week ago
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I totally agree with you on College.
Remember that the situation is your responsibility when it comes to your son. It's not just her & the parents allowing this. You have a say in your son's life if he is living with you.
Ü Hang in there~
Well, if it helps, I started college because my parents insisted. I didn't last long. I went one year and lived there. I totally lacked self-dicipline and just wanted to hang out and party. Year 2, I didn't want to go back. But my parents bribed me with the option to commute and get a car. Eventually I just stopped going to class. Essentially, I dropped out without telling them. I would just hang around campus until it was time to go home. I got a job without them knowing. I saved up my pennies and then announced, one fine day, that I hadn't been to class for 3 months and I was moving out. I'd found a roommate/apartment to share. It was an ugly scene.
Years later, my parents finally admitted that I wasn't ready for school. It didn't help either that they wouldn't allow me to major in the subject that was closest to my heart (art). I worked my way up from temp secretary to mid-level manager in the corporate world. I went back to school on my own, years later. I was quite successful without the degree, but I could have been much more so with it. Turns out I didn't need it, since I gave up my career to be a mom. :-}
My brother dropped out of college before he'd even gone half a year. He joined the military, got medic training and then got a job at a hospital when his tour was over. He's been pretty successful without the degree too.
The key is to find alternate ways for job training. I had typing as a skill I learned in high school and early exposure to computers (thanks to my Dad) and parlayed that into a career. My brother turned his military training into a job on the transplant team (he's the blood guy from the bank).
Sure, it's harder to make it without the degree. If your son is a slacker - really, the military is the BEST place for him. My brother was a different person when he came out. A better one. Skilled, confident, a responsible man. And there are lots of training tracks that lead to non-combat roles too. I know that is a worry in times of war. Just tell him to stick with the Navy and Air Force. Army, Marines and National Guard are all cannon fodder. :-(
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